Growth mindset.
Inquiry proposal:
My top inquiry is growth mindset because I’ve always been interested in finding different ways to not only better myself as a student athlete but also as a person. Who knows maybe I can help others find a way not to just look at things more positively but have a more positive outlook on certain things when it’s tough. Or just to start a new “lifestyle” and improve a more healthy, stable lifestyle. It might be more beneficial to get some “insight” on how to or what to do for this growth mindset from a younger perspective. I also believe that I have this drive to be a better version of myself because of my past experiences with my biological father, which has done a lot of “damage” as I used to call it, but now I look at them as strengths to better myself. which i guess explains another drive of mine to make it so other people don’t have to go through anything like that without having someone to talk to or an “out” if they aren’t comfortable with talking about it.
For this inquiry I want to not only learn more about the growth mindset but also how I can spread awareness about it. so that others can also benefit from it, feeling like a better version of themselves learning from past experiences or “issues” that may have come back to get them. This inquiry itself is interesting not only because it's improving your lifestyle but also because it has this mysterious, the effects of what it can do to you as a person, your mental health but also impact the world around you.
I believe that the growth mindset has the mindful learner and effective communicator portrait of a learner competencies. the mindful learner and effective communicator because for growth mindset it’s all about personal behaviors, viewing things from different perspectives, using the ability of technology and media to help accomplish your goals to make you feel better, along with the ability to communicate with others on specific topics with a purpose and certain outlook. In order to make sure I follow all the way through with the portrait of a learner competencies I’ll be sure to relate to myself and others like famous influencers that actually represent that specific part or topic.
Although setting up an interview and getting professional advice would be ideal, it is not my main focus. Instead I’ll be more focused on gathering reliable information while also sharing my own tips and tricks on how I learned about growth mindset. Using what I know about it and applying it to everyday life. While learning more about how it affects your perspective on certain situations. But if I absolutely have/need to I can send an email or set up an interview on zoom asking professionals in this particular field about how it affects you both mentally, physically, along with other tips and tricks to improve your own lifestyle.
In order to achieve my inquiry goals I will most likely keep up with the weekly goals document because I like seeing where I “should be”. So I can get an idea of how much I need to get done and where I should be throughout this whole process. Also I’ll be keeping in mind that there will be a project by the end of the semester so I’ll plan accordingly for how much information I’ll need. Not only for this inquiry on growth mindset but also for my other inquiries.
In order for others to hear about growth mindset but just by an adult talking to you about it, which doesn’t make you feel engaged beforehand. I feel as though I have a better shot of more people becoming engaged into what I have to say about the growth mindset because they can relate more to someone their own age than an adult. So to get the word out beyond legacy class I’ll also use my social media platforms to get the word out and hopefully capture someone’s attention. It doesn’t have to be everyone if it helps one person I’ve done my job. Maybe it will expand to be more than just a “school project” and be more changing than just a couple of people’s lifestyles, we’ll just have to wait and see what the future has in store.
My top inquiry is growth mindset because I’ve always been interested in finding different ways to not only better myself as a student athlete but also as a person. Who knows maybe I can help others find a way not to just look at things more positively but have a more positive outlook on certain things when it’s tough. Or just to start a new “lifestyle” and improve a more healthy, stable lifestyle. It might be more beneficial to get some “insight” on how to or what to do for this growth mindset from a younger perspective. I also believe that I have this drive to be a better version of myself because of my past experiences with my biological father, which has done a lot of “damage” as I used to call it, but now I look at them as strengths to better myself. which i guess explains another drive of mine to make it so other people don’t have to go through anything like that without having someone to talk to or an “out” if they aren’t comfortable with talking about it.
For this inquiry I want to not only learn more about the growth mindset but also how I can spread awareness about it. so that others can also benefit from it, feeling like a better version of themselves learning from past experiences or “issues” that may have come back to get them. This inquiry itself is interesting not only because it's improving your lifestyle but also because it has this mysterious, the effects of what it can do to you as a person, your mental health but also impact the world around you.
I believe that the growth mindset has the mindful learner and effective communicator portrait of a learner competencies. the mindful learner and effective communicator because for growth mindset it’s all about personal behaviors, viewing things from different perspectives, using the ability of technology and media to help accomplish your goals to make you feel better, along with the ability to communicate with others on specific topics with a purpose and certain outlook. In order to make sure I follow all the way through with the portrait of a learner competencies I’ll be sure to relate to myself and others like famous influencers that actually represent that specific part or topic.
Although setting up an interview and getting professional advice would be ideal, it is not my main focus. Instead I’ll be more focused on gathering reliable information while also sharing my own tips and tricks on how I learned about growth mindset. Using what I know about it and applying it to everyday life. While learning more about how it affects your perspective on certain situations. But if I absolutely have/need to I can send an email or set up an interview on zoom asking professionals in this particular field about how it affects you both mentally, physically, along with other tips and tricks to improve your own lifestyle.
In order to achieve my inquiry goals I will most likely keep up with the weekly goals document because I like seeing where I “should be”. So I can get an idea of how much I need to get done and where I should be throughout this whole process. Also I’ll be keeping in mind that there will be a project by the end of the semester so I’ll plan accordingly for how much information I’ll need. Not only for this inquiry on growth mindset but also for my other inquiries.
In order for others to hear about growth mindset but just by an adult talking to you about it, which doesn’t make you feel engaged beforehand. I feel as though I have a better shot of more people becoming engaged into what I have to say about the growth mindset because they can relate more to someone their own age than an adult. So to get the word out beyond legacy class I’ll also use my social media platforms to get the word out and hopefully capture someone’s attention. It doesn’t have to be everyone if it helps one person I’ve done my job. Maybe it will expand to be more than just a “school project” and be more changing than just a couple of people’s lifestyles, we’ll just have to wait and see what the future has in store.
What influences your growth mindset?
What you might not notice is that everything around you influences they way you think, how you react and what you say. You might not be able to see it but it does, whether it’s the good, the bad and even the ugly. For instance music, peers and social media are the top biggest factors in your growth mindset. Don’t believe me?! Well let me ask you a couple things....
Do you truly believe that you are using social media correctly?
Do you truly believe that you are using social media correctly?
I bet all of you are like why is this even a question? Of course I do! Well this next question will really decide whether or not you are. Are you following people (influencers, peers, brands, fan pages, etc.) because it’s what’s trending? They look pretty/cute? It’s what you like? You're just following them because others are? Or are you actually following them for what they believe in, you stand by them as a role model because you feel connected to them in a positive way. You are influenced by their “mistakes” or past actions to become better, they motivate you to follow your dreams. If you can answer all those questions honestly and truthfully, and still be able to say yes I do follow (who ever) because they motivate me to do better and to push myself. Than just maybe I’ll consider, possibly putting you under the category of using social media “correctly”. |
For those who are like yeah....I don’t do that....like at all. Well it’s time you do because it’s unhealthy. Especially if who your following is problematic, as it will show in your own personality. I’m not saying I’m perfect because I most definitely am not. Nobody is but at least I can admit that, most people can’t. Awareness is key. Most people abuse the power of having such a big following, whether they know it or not. I not saying that having a certain role model or social media influencer is bad. What I’m trying to say is that, the people you follow on social media change your perspective on how you view certain situations, how you react, your attitude, basically the whole nine yards. As you are following the certain individual(s) for some reason whether it’s a cute couple, their clothing, their music, media star, or the fact you share similar interests. What ever the case may be you are following not only them but their beliefs, their own mindset, how they react in different scenarios and even their behavior. The longer you follow them the more you act, look, emotions or even your perspective changes. Especially if you feel strongly about a specific influencer. |
Even though there are major cons in how social media and role models influence our mindset. There are positives as well. If you are using social media CORRECTLY! Influencers and role models are extremely important because they are in a way like a coach. They are there to help motivate you when something goes wrong, as they motivate you on a daily basis. Somethings they may say or do can help someone who they don’t know, who is struggling with something in their own life, which can give them hope and motivate them that to get through it. Even in their personal lives or what is shown on media, the struggles they face, the successes and even the failures of your role model may contain a lesson, that you might not have known you needed or was exactly what you needed. This can inspire and motivate you to improve your own lifestyle. This being said having a influencer/role model in the “spot light” can greatly affect you as a person. Whether they are a positive role model or a negative one. As the saying goes “don’t believe everything you hear, read or see on the internet, because it’s not always accurate.” Is very true! As you don’t know what happens behind the scenes or they are limited to what they can post depending on what the management wants them to say or how much they can say. If they decide to share what’s going on in there personal lives it can be beneficial to their followers because the struggles they had or are currently facing make them who they are now. Can help their followers learn more about how they dealt with a certain situation/struggles to see if they are also facing similar ones, in which you’ll be able to find a solution. Yet again this only comes together if you have the correct role models and are using social media correctly!!!
Social Media and Growth Mindset Questionnaire Responses
STEPS for achieving a growth mindset!
1. FIXING your Social Media
I know what you must be thinking, “fix my social media?! yeah, no!”
Well if you ever followed someone on any social media (tiktok, twitter, facebook, instagram, snapchat, etc.) because you want to keep up with “what’s trending”, is someone who you compare yourself to, because they look good, they have something you want. Like a “perfect” life/family, makes you sad because they are in a relationship or have a family themselves. Or if you just follow them “because you’ll never have that” or makes you think negatively about yourself. These are all examples of using social media incorrectly!!! UNFOLLOW all of those influencers who fall under all of those examples. ESPECIALLY if they are problematic influencers. These are influencers who are always the hot talk because of the drama they are involved in.
Well if you ever followed someone on any social media (tiktok, twitter, facebook, instagram, snapchat, etc.) because you want to keep up with “what’s trending”, is someone who you compare yourself to, because they look good, they have something you want. Like a “perfect” life/family, makes you sad because they are in a relationship or have a family themselves. Or if you just follow them “because you’ll never have that” or makes you think negatively about yourself. These are all examples of using social media incorrectly!!! UNFOLLOW all of those influencers who fall under all of those examples. ESPECIALLY if they are problematic influencers. These are influencers who are always the hot talk because of the drama they are involved in.
INSTEAD
Follow people who make you happy, motivate you to be a better version of yourself or someone who can relate to. Whether it's through similar experiences or something they have done in their life that has inspired you to change your perspective on certain situations, all together. In order to get started in the right direction of achieving a growth mindset updating your social media feeds are the best way to get started. These days everyone is on social media whether its for good reasons or not. I'm not saying that this is going to be easy, nothing never really is. But having a happy and healthy feed is a great way to start off your morning or end your night because whether we want to admit it or not. It's the first and last thing we look at before getting ready for the day or before we close our eyes for the next day.
You are in charge of your own feed. So make it to your own standards and goals about your own life. Surround yourself with a happy, healthy and positive social media. Along side people who will hold you to your standards of completing your goals even when you feel like giving up keep pushing! Make your feed reflect who you are as a person and who you want to grow to be in the future.
2. Choice in Music
Neurologically speaking music has shown to be beneficial not only in improving your mood but also beneficial to your brain as well. The music you listen to also has a great affect on how you view things, the way you react, how you act and overall sets your mood or vibe as a whole. Music is also known to be most of peoples "safe place" as they get lost in the lyrics relating and making connections about themselves to a specific line or verse of the song. As the listener feels connected to the artist whether they know it or not. Which being forced to read a book and make connections about it in an English class couldn't relate to. At least not to most people, but that can be argued. Research has shown that hip-pop, jazz, classical, pop-country or pop music is the most beneficial to one's brain.
These are the results that I have gathered from my instagram question.
"What type of music/artists makes you happy/energetic?" |
Some researchers say that the music you listen to "depends on your personal background"-Yonetani. Another researcher Sugauya explains that "if you play someone's favorite music, different parts of the brain light up. That means memories associated with music are emotional memories, which never fade out-----even in Alzheimer's patients." Different music can affect people differently, so your upbeat music may be a trigger to someone that makes them upset or vice versa.
The most important take away from finding your choice in music. Is to find your happy in the music that you listen to. Something that makes you excited to start your day or something that gets you hype for what that day has to bring. For instances going through your old playlists can be a good throw back but can also make you sad depending on what happen then. So to move forward create a new playlist and challenge yourself to listen to something different. like maybe an artist you have never thought about listening to. Or stepping out of your comfort zone into a different genre of music. Make a playlist that makes you want to drive around with friends having your own concert, letting your "safe place" become a positive escape from the world around you. Who knows maybe you'll also make some new friends and memories along the way. ;)
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3. Thinking in Terms of “I can” & “I will”
You are limiting yourself as to what you can do, when you speak in terms of "I can't."
As it already shows you have given up on whatever you are trying to achieve. Whether it's in everyday life, school, work or even in sports. You are already telling yourself you aren't good enough or you don't have enough potential. When in reality you do! You just don't know it yet or you haven't tried to find it. Don't just give up on yourself because someone else did it "better" and you can't beat that. Trust me, I'm far from perfect and I would have that internal competition with myself. Especially when you, yourself feel low on the food chain or hierarchy.
As it already shows you have given up on whatever you are trying to achieve. Whether it's in everyday life, school, work or even in sports. You are already telling yourself you aren't good enough or you don't have enough potential. When in reality you do! You just don't know it yet or you haven't tried to find it. Don't just give up on yourself because someone else did it "better" and you can't beat that. Trust me, I'm far from perfect and I would have that internal competition with myself. Especially when you, yourself feel low on the food chain or hierarchy.
For example, my own personal competition that I always knew I had. Started my 8th grade year playing up for the Nipmuc jv girls soccer team.
I for one am a very competitive person, always have been always will be. Thats because I like a challenge even if it is unrealistic.
The personal internal competition with myself all started when I watched the goalie, Sophia Sullivan aka Sully, on the Nipmuc girls varsity team play. I remember being amazed as to how good she'd play, so much so that while watching her I told the closes person next to me. Who I believe was Amanda Frieswick, that I was never going to be like that goalie who we were watching. Ever since that game I'd force myself to think in terms of "what would sully do" or if I messed up I'd get hard on myself thinking "Sully wouldn't have done that, she would have saved it." Which was extremely easy to do, get hard on myself because I didn't know any other way. Except throughout that season my coach, Coach Jo. She was really into mental toughness which throughout the season I got better at not thinking negatively, regardless its not easy. Coach Jo taught me to look at not to what I just messed up on. Instead what was my nba( next best action). Fast forward to my junior year, there is no Sully. Which made me feel like its all or nothing. It wasn't until we got our uniforms when I was holding the red jersey Sully wore. When it really hit me Sully wasn't there. Thats when I felt like it was all wrong " no I can't do it, this is Sully's uniform not mine." Every game before I put on the jersey I'd look at it and think "I'll make Sully proud." This past soccer season was my growth season because I not only proved to everyone else but to myself that sure, I may not ever be exactly like Sully, no one could! But that I'm myself and that's good enough for me. I challenge myself to not only play for the seniors but to make a statement to any and everyone. That although Sully graduated, until I walk across that stage with cap and gown, I'm here to stay. I'll keep pushing myself more and more. Not because I have to try and be someone else but because I will work hard so that 8th grader watching me play, uses me as inspiration to push themself.
I for one am a very competitive person, always have been always will be. Thats because I like a challenge even if it is unrealistic.
The personal internal competition with myself all started when I watched the goalie, Sophia Sullivan aka Sully, on the Nipmuc girls varsity team play. I remember being amazed as to how good she'd play, so much so that while watching her I told the closes person next to me. Who I believe was Amanda Frieswick, that I was never going to be like that goalie who we were watching. Ever since that game I'd force myself to think in terms of "what would sully do" or if I messed up I'd get hard on myself thinking "Sully wouldn't have done that, she would have saved it." Which was extremely easy to do, get hard on myself because I didn't know any other way. Except throughout that season my coach, Coach Jo. She was really into mental toughness which throughout the season I got better at not thinking negatively, regardless its not easy. Coach Jo taught me to look at not to what I just messed up on. Instead what was my nba( next best action). Fast forward to my junior year, there is no Sully. Which made me feel like its all or nothing. It wasn't until we got our uniforms when I was holding the red jersey Sully wore. When it really hit me Sully wasn't there. Thats when I felt like it was all wrong " no I can't do it, this is Sully's uniform not mine." Every game before I put on the jersey I'd look at it and think "I'll make Sully proud." This past soccer season was my growth season because I not only proved to everyone else but to myself that sure, I may not ever be exactly like Sully, no one could! But that I'm myself and that's good enough for me. I challenge myself to not only play for the seniors but to make a statement to any and everyone. That although Sully graduated, until I walk across that stage with cap and gown, I'm here to stay. I'll keep pushing myself more and more. Not because I have to try and be someone else but because I will work hard so that 8th grader watching me play, uses me as inspiration to push themself.
A tip to help you think in terms of "I can" and "I will." Is to create an "I am statement" about yourself. So you know your worth. But the key isn't just to write down what your good at, it also allows for you to be vulnerable to what happened in your past. The people you have lost due to certain events, how you've grown from then to now. To also recognize that what you did in your past is apart of who you have become, what makes you one of a kind. Instead of using words like "I want, I can't, I won't or not good enough" use words like "working on, improving, I will or I can." There's no specific right or wrong way to write it but its known that if you hand write something you are twice as likely to achieve or complete what it is that you have written. So allow your self to really reflect on who you are! Instead of comparing yourself negatively, look at it as motivation to push yourself to be better than who or whatever.
This is the first "I am statement" I have ever written. I'm not one who really likes to talk about themself especially when it comes to certain topic but I'm working on that.
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4. Writing 10 Positives
A great way to achieve a growth mindset is writing down 10 positives of that day. It can be something as small as someone smiling at you to something like buying your dream car. You may think that this will be easy but it's in fact hard to get the ball rolling. Reflecting on your day and looking for the positives can be hard especially when your brain is already trained to look for the negatives. But when you start looking for the positives in your day, as you continue to do it. It will impact the way you view certain scenarios. By looking for the positives, being someone else light in a very dark tunnel or just making light of a situation.
There are also steps to help you to get started on writing down your own positives. They can be personal or even jokes you have with your friends.
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I as a matter of fact still write down my positives of the day. But to make it more fun. I take the small empty apple juice bottles I use to have. Save them, wash them then fill them with positives by a sticky note color. Each color had a different meaning, from family, friends, events, or sports. Each positive would fall under one of those categories. As each bottle filled I put them in a shoe box with the year on it, so I'll be able to look back on all the things that made me smile.
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5. Setting Specific & Realistic Goals
Setting specific and realistic goals are important because the more specific and more realistic they are the more likely you are to complete that said goal. It shows you are willing to make an effort to become the person you've always wanted to be. As it shows by each goal you cross off is one step closer to improving your motivation to becoming a better version of yourself, while also achieving a growth mindset.
Examples)
A non specific goal would be:
"This year I want to eat healthier"
"I want to lose weight"
"I'll exercise more" etc.
Examples)
A non specific goal would be:
"This year I want to eat healthier"
"I want to lose weight"
"I'll exercise more" etc.
Although those are valid goals, they are specific enough.
Specific goals would be:
"I will focus on my ball handling on my free time before basketball season starts"
"This year I will substitute some of the things I eat that are unhealthy, into somethings that are healthier"
"Before lacrosse starts I will work on my shot by doing accuracy drills outside"
"This year I'll save money by not buying everything on tiktok because I want it. Instead I'll buy things based off of needs"
"I will focus on my ball handling on my free time before basketball season starts"
"This year I will substitute some of the things I eat that are unhealthy, into somethings that are healthier"
"Before lacrosse starts I will work on my shot by doing accuracy drills outside"
"This year I'll save money by not buying everything on tiktok because I want it. Instead I'll buy things based off of needs"
If you are a procrastinator, like myself. I find it easier to stick with my goals by making them the most specific as I possibly can. To make it look easier than it is completely vague because the more vague it is the more likely I'll just put it off. Plus I also like the look of things when I can cross it off a list.
6. Making a Routine/Habit
Don't just do it for a couple of days. Do it for at least a month! Once you break that "I don't know what to do" mentality. It'll become second nature to look at things differently, or even the way you view certain situations. You'll become more creative to outcomes when others ask for help. More people will gravitate towards you because they admire your perspective. Make giving compliments a habit. Make feeling confident in yourself a habit. Make being proud of who you are a habit. Make others smile a habit.
All of these things aren't going to happen overnight. Nothing never really does, hate to break it to you.
But after practice, motivation and determination to grow, to be the best version of yourself. Through all the ups and downs it'll be very worth it. Nobody said it'll be easy. Someone once told me "They don't care about how you start the game...They care about how you end the game, remember that"- Coach Jo. I strongly believe that.
It doesn't just apply to the game but to life. Making a habit of who you want to be is about the journey and the people you meet. Sure you'll have your obstacles we all do. It's how you overcome them and the impression you leave on others that matter. Not where you came from or who you were, it's about who you are now and who you are going to be.
It doesn't just apply to the game but to life. Making a habit of who you want to be is about the journey and the people you meet. Sure you'll have your obstacles we all do. It's how you overcome them and the impression you leave on others that matter. Not where you came from or who you were, it's about who you are now and who you are going to be.
Mental Toughness
INSPIRED BY COACH JO (JOHANNA ANNUNZIATA)
Google definition: Is the ability to resist, manage and overcome doubts, worries, concerns and circumstances that prevent you from succeeding, or excelling at a task or toward an objective or a performance outcome that you set out to achieve.
ImportanceFinding your why
Stop comparing yourself to others
S.C.H.A.P.E S- spirit: the energy you bring
E. T. D. M. T. Y. S.
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Being able to stretch yourself
3 Types of Energy
energy taker (aka a drain)
-someone who takes away the energy examples of energy takers:
energy fluctuater (aka thermometer)
-goes with the crowd/depends on what the energy is/goeswith the flow -a follower examples of energy fluctuaters:
energy giver (aka thermostat)
-someone who sets the vibe or tone examples of energy givers:
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C- communication: tone of voice
" It's not what you say but how you say it!"- Coach Jo
" It's not what you say but how you say it!"- Coach Jo
Why People Don't Talk:
- Scared they might be wrong - Too "good" - Not sure what to say/ how to say it - Feel like their voices won't be heard - Feel intimidated by others Communication isn't always about talking or being the loudest. Sometimes communication can be heard by your body language.
BODY LANGUAGE SAYS ALOT
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HOW DO WE FIX THAT!?!?!?
N. I. T. E. COMMUNICATION ...... Works with friends, significant others, teachers, parents and coaches.
----> CONTROL YOUR THINKING! examples)
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What is NITE communication?
N: Names- Which grabs the attention of whoever you're talking to. INSTEAD of saying "hey!", "you!" or " do this next time"
I: Information- being specific adds value to what you are trying to get at. ex) (Name) instead of throwing the ball in to the same spot, try throwing it so someone can ran at an angle to get pass the defense? T: Tone of voice- the way you say/ask something, will depend on how people react. Keep in mind KYP ( know your personal) some people react differently depending on the tone. ex) If some asks/suggests and idea you are more likely to try it out. At least for some people, others might need that little shove of "what are you doing, come on you can fix, get it back" motivation to continue, whatever it is they are doing. E: Eye contact- builds a sense of trust, shows interest that they understand and are listening. This also follows with body language as well. ----> INSTEAD
Think about what your coach said, take and apply it to your game. Even though the mood might be down, it doesn't have to stay that way. Be in control of your own thoughts! Prove to your coach and everyone else on your team that you can take what they say and apply it to your game. Odds are your coach is just trynna help and sometimes its easier to call out a specific player as an example. This is when your mental toughness comes into play. Will you,
A) Think negatively about your self and lose confidence in yourself B) Challenge your self to prove to your coach that you are a coachable player. Taking it even though it might sting and apply it to your game |
IN ORDER TO CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS
Remember these 3 things!
Remember these 3 things!
1. Endurance |
"Tough times don't last, tough people do!"- Julian Edelman
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2. Strength |
Don't allow for others to make you second guess yourself or lose confidence, mental toughness is how you succeed!
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3. Flexibility |
Ability to look at things differently without becoming offended or immediately getting defensive --> Growth mindset
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H- Hustle is habit
You want to stand out?! Do what others DON'T!!
You want to stand out?! Do what others DON'T!!
Hustle is contagious!!
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BE THE SHEEPDOG!
Sheepdog: a dog that herds the sheep to where they are supposed to be going
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Having Sheepdog Mentality
ISN'T
- Being the "favorite"/special ----> - A follower ----> - Focused on themselves ----> - Bringing people down/sucking the energy out of the team ----> |
IS
- Doing what others won't - A leader -Focused on making people around them better - Giving feedback to make each other better, building up your energy to benefit the team |
A- Approach
Who?! Identify who you want to be and why.
It's not what you are doing but how you are doing it!! NBA: Next Best Action
Always look for your NBA
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P- Precision
Attention to detail (The little things)
Being precise is paying attention to detail as it forms a HABIT.
**By focusing on the little things it can benefit you in the long run!**
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E: Enhance
"Leave your environment better than when you found it!" - Coach Jo
"Leave your environment better than when you found it!" - Coach Jo
How?! By,
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**You don't want to be known as someone who's a slob and can't or won't pick up after themselves**
!!DO WHAT THE OTHERS WON'T!!
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STEPS TO USING SOCIAL MEDIA CORRECTLY
1. Finding the "perfect" role model
What makes a "perfect" role model?!?!
Let's dive into some role models!!!
- is it their hair?
- their body?
- their relationship?
- their following?
- their success?
- "I'll never be able to do that"
- "I want to look like them"
- " Why can't my life be like theirs?"
Let's dive into some role models!!!
PROBLEMATIC VS UNPROBLEMATIC
Trisha Paytas- Seeks attention by making videos of other influencers.
Zoe Laverne- Looks to be in the spot light because other people are passing her in followers, feens for attention: pregnant or not?! Likes to be the talk of the town. The Paul brothers (Logan, Jake)- Starting up drama with other wrestlers, making their voices especially heard on the internet about their beliefs. Hype House- Voted most problematic tiktok house, due to all the drama about who's in it, how it started and their "problems" with the Sway house. How they consistently travel while in a pandemic, have their own drama with others allegedly sending sexual messages to minors, legal disputes and consistent feening for attention to be in the public eye. Sway House- Second most problematic house on tiktok, known for their "problems" with the hype house. Partying during a pandemic (regardless if they say they are "following protocols"). Also known to be incredibly problematic because of the coverage of alleged drug possession, sexual harassment, physical assault (getting into fights) and inappropriately contacting minors. Damelio sisters (Charli, Dixie)- Looking for the attention to stay "relevant" grew followers insanely fast, gets emotionally out of control when followers start to go down. Traveling during a pandemic, while also hanging out with groups of friends in our uncertain times, showing their followers that pandemic or not you can travel. But also saying how dangerous this pandemic is and saying how staying home is the best option for everyones safety. |
Gabriela Gonzalez- Brings awareness to current social issues and problems we face in todays world. An outlet for positivity, speaks up about past struggles and what she did then/now to overcome those obstacles. Becoming a better version of her self for not only her but for her daughter.
Jordyn Jones- She's one of the most unproblematic tiktokers, shows that anything is possible with determination and the motivation to be better. No matter what life throws at you. Like when her father passed away in 2019, she pushed herself even more to make him proud while also sharing her experiences with her followers. Letting them know they aren't alone. Arianna Grande- Known for being a positive role model due to her work ethic, her motivation to be successful while acknowledging the people who have helped her along the way. Along with the way she uses her social media to spread vials information about what is going on in the world, using it for good and educating others. She also shares her personal stories and struggles throughout the lyrics of her songs, as she is a music artist. Justin Bieber- Sure he's made mistakes, he's owned up to them, dealt with them. Still dealing with them but sharing his experiences with the world and how he overcame certain obstacles throughout his life. Whether it's through the music he produces or his social media. He's growing and learning more and more. By not letting his past effect who he want to be now. Anna Sitar- A positive influencer with her own bran "I don't want it" known on tiktok. She created her own meaning behind her phrase to inspire others to "achieve more than the ordinary." Keeps her followers in the loop about certain topics and healthy mindset/body. Jack Avery (member of WDW)- Shows is journey to fame, from where it all started to where he's at right now. He's made mistakes in the past as he was growing up quite literally in the public eye. Jack shares how hard it was for him throughout his way to fame. How he was at his lowest of lows struggling with his anxiety all the way to his highest of highs, spending time with his daughter. Regardless of his past and the things his management made him do then, he's learned to use his own voice and speak up for himself even when he's uncertain of how people will react. He talks about his experiences and the things that got him through it (his bandmates, family, friends, daughter). Showing his followers throughout his music and use of social media that there's both sides to being in the public eye and it isn't always pretty and perfect like some may think. |
**Note that these are what people chose and their thoughts on these specific influencers**
2. Deleting negativity
You have to start somewhere, literally anywhere. So why not start with the one thing everyone uses religiously?! SOCIAL MEDIA! How many people can say they follow people because they actually like them, as they motivate them to be better versions of yourself?...Hmmm not many I bet. Well deleting or even removing people or accounts that make you feel self conscious, like you aren't enough or someone who consistently puts you down on a day to day basis. GET RID OF THEM!!!
If accounts or people make you feel any of these things. Either unfriend them or block them.
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If anyone or account constantly reminds you that you "aren't worth it", "you'll never get that" or you're to "this" or "that." It's UNHEALTHY and you need to get rid of them. Even if you guys have a long history or not. Your mental health comes before anyone or anything. If you aren't in it than you are letting them control you. What you do, how you act, the way you think along with your personality.
**You can also "delete" negativity on instagram by getting rid of words/slander that you don't want on/in your feed by going to setting. So only whoever comments whatever you don't want to see/read, they will see it but you won't.**
3. Fixing your feed
Follow influencers, brands, friends and family that make you smile. Or even better yet make you remember all those unexciting memories you guys had together. Follow accounts who motivate you to push yourself everyday to be a better person each day.
There are some accounts that I follow on instagram that make me feel positive and uplifted:
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Fixing your feed whether it's Facebook, instagram or twitter. Is important because whether we want to admit it or not. We are all addicted to social media. Everyone has it, everyone uses it for different reasons. Therefore checking your feed is often the first thing you check in the morning, which can effect how you start your morning depending on what you just looked at and how it made you feel. Your feed is also the last thing you check before going to bed. Which can also make you go to bed angry or some other emotion. Either way odds are you are going to wake up that next morning with that same vibe/energy you went to bed with. So just think about it. Changing your toxic feed to a more healthier, positive feed can alter your day and your motivation as well.
4. Make a habit
Being consistent allows for your mind to create a new default. So continuing to push yourself to not only just look for the positives in uncertain times but to also motivate yourself to be come who you have always dreamed of being. But this doesn't just happen overnight. You have to work for it, you have to want it. Not for proving to your peers that you are above them but to show them you are aware of what is going on in the world around you and that you are willing to improve your mindset for a better more healthier aspect of life.
Following through with your goals making time from them come to life and the journey it takes you on. Allows for you to learn, grow and become a better more educated person, then you were before. Which allows you to share your experiences with others, while also creating a healthier aspect on life. Through the eyes of a growth mindset and learning from the challenges you've faced, creating a different perspectives and creative outcomes to some obstacles you may face.
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5. Impress yourself
Using social media correctly is not only get of negativity but to better your health, mindset and more importantly to prove to yourself that you are in fact worth it. Regardless of what other say about your looks, personality. It's all about how you see yourself, you shouldn't be worried about what others think of you because their opinions don't matter especially if they have nothing good to say.
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Do it because you want to be proud of whoever is looking back at you in the mirror!! This doesn't mean change who you are but show other the real you and show them that who you were may please them but it isn't the real you. Show them that the real you wasn't worth hiding because you are who you are so embrace it!!! IMPRESS NOBODY BUT THE PERSON YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR! You deserve to be happy and proud of the person you have became, its just the matter of when you are willing to take the first step, towards the person you've always wanted to be!